Self Concept on the way to Self WORTH.

“Our moral belief system tells us… very modestly that we need to be distinct and above mediocre to feel respectable about ourselves, but we all can’t be above mediocre… and it’s a bitter truth”

Actually, your beliefs, preferences, opinions, perceptions and attitudes towards your personal traits & abilities shape your self-concept. Simply, it is how you see yourself and as a result you think, behave and act out in your various roles in personal life and professional world.

Sometimes you cannot understand what is really going on in your mind, you may not be able to precisely clarify why you are thinking in this particular manner, or why do you act in that particular style?

People with positive self-concept see themselves as an adorable and valuable person, they are curious about things around them; they keep setting goals & trying new ways to attain them; and most importantly... they acknowledge their personal accomplishments.

Whereas, people with Negative self-concept feels unclear and uncomfortable about themselves; they are scared of probable rejection; they generally observe & analyses only one aspect and neglect the huge representations and Jump to decisions very quickly; they enlarge mistakes & don't value small accomplishments. Many a times these people blame others to hide their own failures or faults; whereas sometime they act being an overly amusing people or savior or self-sacrificing idealist.

No one is born with self-concept; it develops as a person grows older and older as a by-product of socialization. But, every one of us is born knowing our own self-worth; have you noticed kids using their self-worth to manipulate the response of their parents over their actions..? But as life moves on, the remark, hope and approach system of society downcast this natural wisdom of self-worth. Over the time, perception about yourself get altered due to dynamic internal and external factors/ situations/ challenges related to your past and future expectations also.

Self-worth is what empowers you to trust that you are proficient to undertake vivid task and complete them by giving best of your talents and backing well in society, and that you deserve to have an enjoyable life. Building self-concept and gaining a sense of self-worth back is very crucial.

Future expectations about yourself is the idea of what you might become or you would like to become or what you are afraid of becoming. These possibilities about yourself are motivations for certain actions.

You have a tendency to let go of the stuffs and ideas that are not matching to your self-concept, and you hold on to those that you think are supportive in constructing a more promising view of our personal being.

When you believe something that is harmonious to your self-concept, it is more likely that you would repel altering that belief; as a result changing this insight of yourself may take too stretched, but change is practicable.

Your self-concept may differ from what others think about you. For example, you may feel that you are generous while others see you as an egotistic individual..!!!

There needs to be a perfect bargain between ideal-self and actual-self. The one you want to be and the one you actually are. Some of your traits are god gift and some are nurtured. You can become what you think but efforts are required to be taken.

Self-concept does not include feeling about what you are. For example, if you are tall and you know it; then its self-concept. It does not include either you feel good about it or bad! And, Self-worth is less about assessing yourself founded on external activities and more about treasuring your intrinsic substance as an individual.

Can we build “I am ME?” a sense of our own value which is fairly true to ourselves? Of course yes; look for positive associations with others and just list down your personal strengths, abilities & areas of improvements. Then; set achievable goals based on your needs, wants & desires. Recognise your achievements at each milestone on the way and don’t forget to reward yourselves… you will surly come to know the awesome “Who” you are...I am ME???