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Express to Impress

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Don’t go out, search & try to imitate a popular personalities in the pursuit of admiration by others. It’s the begins when, you express reality to IMPRESS yourself... 

IMPRESS yourself, the special branding efforts for someone who you know the best..!!!

Be your own, to evolve yourself, no one else can do this for you. Give utmost consideration to your own opinions & emotions, you can ignore everything else for a while. Start taking efforts now to impress yourself on priority, everyone else is secondary. It’s never too late, it starts with being yourself.

👉Push yourself to spare some time every day to do something creative. Pull the positive & patience for the possibilities, power & position you may be having. Convince yourself & do whatever makes your cheerful. Compassionate way to live & love the life is to be passionate about things you like. Expect nothing but make yourself busy finding the real & brand new you.

👉Don’t go out, search & try to imitate a popular personalities in the pursuit of admiration by others. It’s the beginning where, you express reality to impress yourself, others will automatically get impressed. While expressing yourself, you may make mistakes and stumble a little, but important is to learn and move ahead. Avoid judging yourself before you start a journey with yourself.

🙌You ‘yourself’ is the most ignored person in the list of “People to be impressed”

🙌It is just a forever moment when you realise that it’s ‘you’ who is the most vital.

🙌It begins with realisation of self-worth, achieving high self-esteem forever & endorsing Self-confidence on the world out there.

JUDGE yourself less for a contented innersole.

 

We may not be knowing the finest of us to the fullest. To judge ourselves is to assume, assess, analyses & define ourselves. First ask & answer honestly “Who is me to judge? What is the need to judge?”

• Just because people don’t agree with you. Just because people did something wrong to you. Just because people are ahead of you. Don’t CRITICISE yourself using sight & spectacles of others.
• Just because people pointed out some of your mistakes. Yeah, mistakes are to be wiped out, corrected & not to be repeated ever after. Don’t CHANGE yourself to quick fix yourself in to the world.
• Just because people are different from you. Start, swiftness & success can’t be defined identically by different people. You are unique. Don’t COMPARE yourself with others is unjust.
• Just because people avoid or ignore you. Keep in mind, you don’t judge the one you love & self-love is foreseeable & forever. Don’t COMPLAIN about yourself & injure your heart.
• Just be honest & humble to yourself. Have your own realistic standards & achievable objectives. Just try to COMPREHEND yourself.

Just keep moving forward. Persistently think on how & where you are going. Do what you have to do for yourself? You will find wonderfully interesting people on the way.

Judging is an activity with no purpose. Rather, be a witness and you will watch the world with no whines. It’s like ending the never ending war with inner-self. You are here to impress yourself.

AVOID Let-downs to Stand-up with Happy You.

Many of us love desserts after dinner, but we need to avoid excess sugar for better health. Avoiding is not same as disliking or ignoring something. We may want something, but that thing may not be right for us. 

Few of us have natural instinct & skills of avoiding agitated situations. But, many of us don’t have guts to escape conflicts & disappointments. Want to avoid unhappiness? Here we go for revision of some known way outs:

👎Most important, we should never avoid people for their (unintended) mistakes in past. And, if we have made such mistake, it’s Okay! Confess & apologise for it. But, for one  such let-down, don't let such things/ people occupy space in your head forever. We can always avoid such people, who keep re-reading about our earlier failures.

👎We can always keep safe distance from originators of negativity. We can sidestep people who may deliberately or frequently hurts & threatens our joy. They may direct a drama casting us (the victim) as the villain. They may destroy your self-confidence.

👍We can avoid expecting anything from anyone (including yourself), to escape messing up with our head & heart. But, we can happily hang out with positive people. Prioritise people who respect & inspire. They may indirectly affluence & bring out the finest.

👍 We can aim success, but we can’t avoid failures coming on the way to the desired peak you dreamt about.. Don’t fear criticism, just avoid over thinking. Keep innovative spirit alive within & accept the consequences. But, be selective about endeavours!

And finally, if someone is avoiding you, then judge yourself less, keep moving & stop disturbing that person.

Don’t doubt your existence.... Don’t close eyes to yourself... Don’t side-step your Life!

Silly ME! Created heart-breakers for myself: EXPECTATIONS

It is a very common question “Should we expect something from ourselves?” & it is most doubtfully answered as well.

Why we have doubt on our own abilities to perform? Then, how will we make others believe on our abilities to perform? Eventually, we start expecting the failures.

Don't ignore strengths as well as areas of improvements. Keep track of each success and failure. Only two things can happen learning or unlearning from success & failures.

Keep your expectations high on the ability of people to achieve & low on People. Don’t let people (including yourself) disappoint you! Don’t wait for something to happen, rather create it & celebrate it. It’s better to feel surprised!

Don’t dive against the flow of life, it feeds frustration only. Appreciate “the things as they are?” instead of unhealthy attachments to “How things are supposed to be?” Holding hopes is the root of hurt & hatred.

👎Don’t assume & ask,

👎Don’t Idealise,

👎Don’t Expect.

💢Always & Anyways:

👍ACCEPT actuality,

👍ANTICIPATE aftermaths,

👍ATTACH abilities,

👍ACHIEVE aspirations astonishingly.

It’s better to be bent & broken for a better personality. We can exceed our expectations, as we would be expecting less than the highs we can achieve.

Goodness of idleness! Be thoughtfully IDLE.

Let my active brain think with Idle Body!

Notorious Idleness is not a Sin. Even, Involuntary joblessness shouldn't be a holiday. Use it as a blissful time to craft future. It is vital for healthy mind & soul. It’s a time to think, re-think & un-think. It’s the time when body is relaxing & only mind may be working (If you are not sleeping). It’s essential to rejuvenate you for further engagements. Deprived of it you undergo an emotional illness which may spoil you future behaviour. Don't ignore Idleness of body.

Ironically, idle woolgathering makes sense most of the time. It help us simulate “What we are? What we want to be? What we want to do?”

Everyone wants full employment today. We keep doing work hopelessly for well-preserved future idleness & enjoyment. This is destroying the present that is full of attractive opportunities. These opportunities are missed by most of the people, as they keep themselves busy doing actually nothing.

Avoid Melodramatic over-tiredness. It is a way of covering up the fact that most us are occupied but have no ambitions in life. It is an easy solution to countless problems created when we are free. It’s a situation when we are not productively busy but get mentally & physically tired. This way of trying to be busy is a way to safeguard yourself from undesirable emptiness.

The most trending & hopelessly boring response to

“how are you doing?” is “I am very busy”.

Before giving this response. Stop for a while. Look around. Have good problems. Be a visionary. Be booked for meaningful jobs. Give a meaning to our existence. We can always choose & indulgence in meaningful activities for being happily tired.

Countless chaos, let’s deal! A conscious step towards freedom: BUSY

Busy? It’s only about “How do we make time for every good thing to happen?” Although, being busy is the best feed for the ego. But, it’s not enough to be busy! Be calculative about “Why & for what we are busy”?

It feels good to keep oneself occupied. Being busy is the best way to be happy. It turn out to be very easy to avoid meaningless discussions. Evil thoughts will find us engaged always. Many people are addict to be busy all the time. If they find spare time, they find some work & they are the happier ones.

People may not be ignoring us, they would be busy making their own lives. Best way to stop feeling ignored is to get busy with our own stuff. And, if we are important, they will make spot in their schedule for us, it doesn’t mean they are free. They are taking efforts to be available for us.

👉Some task are ‘Now or never’ types, Do them right now, only if they are significant enough. If something is important then don’t look at schedule.

👉Make ‘To do’ priority list. It’s all about priorities. It’s not about having time, it is about making time for every small-n- big task.

👉Everyone’s counter is full of work. First, enjoy where you are, than look at the endeavours of others. Make schedule & be organised.

It’s easy to say “I am busy”. It’s equally hard & hurting to hear it. Close the unnecessary tabs for greater free space in life. Never get too busy making luxury that we tend to miss little joys of life.

Think twice about emptiness of busy life.Admire Life, it is too short to wake up with regrets about ‘unimportant things we did yesterday’ & worthy things being left to be done for tomorrow.

Let go off the things that don’t deserve your time, spare the time for the things you desire & dream about.

Original self is worth more, let the world deal with the genuine you: EMOTIONS

Emotions are natural feelings of love - envy, shame - pride, greed - satisfaction, fear - hope… driven from circumstances or relationships. Don’t let emotions regulate talks, decisions & life. These should be based on knowledge & rational thinking.

Sometimes we don’t understand ourselves. Even then, we claim that we understands others very well! We feel happy & the very next moment, we feel very sad. These chaos may eats-up our relationship dynamics & complicate it further, leaving no space for patch-up.

Emotional turmoil get opportunity to pop-up as soon as we carelessly make cocktail of our feelings with another person’s feelings. It can be our emotional matrix with our family, friends and workplace companions. We can call for self-help to fix it. Or, we can start & play a never ending blame game by finding faults! This will drain all our brain.

We have an expected image of ourselves which we like others to see as. Here, the real problem starts when we start comparing our actual with expected image. Our moral belief system sets up of some mix of false & True self-worth.

We have high self-esteem due to some of our realized & actual good qualities that keep pushing us to put our best foot forward. At the same time, we keep trying hard to hide our low self-esteem from others. Eventually, we develop a false self-worth. We need to stop degrading & marking “Not good enough” to ourselves.

As well as; our mind is occupied with lots of junk about the actual & false images of other people. We create fabricated image of others based on our past experiences, belief system, current circumstances & our current state of mind. We keep on describing & dealing with the people based on falsely fabricated image of them in our mind.

Best enduring way out is to be aware of these unnoticed forces that trap us & bring changes. Monitor internal & external dialogue, keep track of thinking. Look at the world around through clean glasses. Most of the time, impression in our mind & point of views are imaginary.

Let’s be aware & stop assuming. Let’s accept ourselves just the way we are. Let’s accept others rationally just the way they are. Let’s appreciate & integrate. It will lessen the conflicts & disappointments unconditionally.

Stop changing behavior to gain attention & to avoid rejection. Let all this come naturally. Don’t get trapped into reasoning for verdicts, opinions and beliefs.

We cannot stop emotions! We need to cry hard to release grief. We need to talk & laugh out loud to share & spread joy. Recognize the misleading details & clarify them.

Engage with life. Go with empathy. Be energetic & confidant. Emotions doesn’t come with warnings! From reaction switch on to response!

FUN: "Please like ME" is the aim & will always be, pop humour to be cherished!

One does not need to be all thoughtful... all the time! Break the ice... don’t be over self-conscious. Try smiling and laughing more frequently… Laughter is infectious, it help integrate yourself with the society. It can be used to develop cohesiveness by disseminating undesirable state of affairs.

Being able to find a short-lived-little idiosyncrasy is loved by almost all. Everyone loves a charming persona, who can giggle by bring hilarious angles to the steady stuffs of life. Humour lessens social anxiety in awful situations and has positive psychological effects.

No one can teach you "How to be funny?". Good sense of humour does not emerge overnight. It's just something you are or you are not. But, the good news is that “You can be!” Yet, it is important that humour comes out naturally in an easy-going and extemporaneous style. Otherwise, it would have undesirable impression.

😉Be easy with yourself & spend more time with naturally funny friends. Especially, focus on the awkward story in the world around you & be keen to catch humour in it. Do not be scared of sharing on what made you laugh. But be cautious, it could make you or others feel uncomfortable.

😊Escape memorising and re-telling older tales. Tales from the past are not off limits, they can still entertain people, if delivered in different style. The peculiar mechanism of being funny is to be more personal to get more success. It help audiences open-up.

😋Don’t initiate by making jokes about someone else. You can gently poke fun at others, if you find a light-hearten situation. Do not make jokes at people with difficult experiences in life. Don’t make fun of people with physical or cognitive disability.

😎Work on your timing. If you notice something funny, do not wait too long to point it out. Seize the moment! Sarcastic remarks popped into chat, work well when delivered quickly. Hang onto stories in short & simple way, as too much details will not magnetise the audience.

No matter who you are & no matter what others think, it’s the terror of failure that holds you back from trying different things. Sometimes, some ideas are going to be huge letdowns. It's going to happen again and again. But, you have to take risks.

Keep challenging yourself to find fresh, exciting & moving topics. Try… give it a shot & practice it, to makes someone laugh every day (Including yourself).